Dating a wounded man
"I was not allowed to be a lover, not even with girls who got close to me.
I was the friend they could trust because my sexuality was denied me by both sexes," Alan Holdsworth writes in New Internationalist.
The documentary film "Murderball" shows disabled men playing a particularly rough variety of wheelchair rugby at paralympic competitions in Sweden and Athens.
Disabled men are encouraged to develop their physical prowess as a means of preserving their sense of masculinity.
If you are considering seriously dating a man (or woman) in the military, there are a few things to consider.
The scene illustrates that disabled people can and often do have active sex lives.
However, there are often physical and mental adjustments, not least of which involve the attitudes of many able-bodied people that disabled men and women are or should be asexual.
In fact, some employment outlets geared toward disabled workers have taken an especially hard hit during the recession, according to the Wall Street Journal.
In the dating market, a man's desirability often hinges to some extent on his financial resources.
In the 1978 movie "Coming Home," Sally Hyde, an able-bodied married woman, falls in love with Luke Martin, a wounded Vietnam veteran who uses a wheelchair.